This marriage series we're studying at church only reminds me of how good I've got it.  While I imagine many people are thinking of how their spouse could better suit them, I'm thinking how I could better suit you.  The question is posed, "does your spouse make you more like Jesus?"  and my answer is simply, "yes."

As I sat in my chair feeling like the luckiest girl in the world, I my eyes drifted from you to me.  God challenged me, "are you, dear wife, making your husband more like Jesus?"

That one, I'm not so sure of.

Sure, I know there must be times when that happens.  I'm a christian and it's inevitable for Him to shine through to some extent.  But would that be the way you describe me?

As I'm writing this I think, "yes. you would. because you love me and see the best in me."

You -- this man who loves me in spite of myself.

I find myself searching the Scriptures, looking to be the wife God would have me be...

Many christian women compare themselves to the godly wife in Proverbs 31.

"Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?...
She finds wool and flax and busily spins it...
She gets up a dawn to prepare breakfast for her household...
She is energetic and strong, a hard worker...
Her hands are busy spinning thread, her fingers twisting fiber...
She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness..."

I can't help but think of Martha in Luke 10

"As Jesus and the disciples continued on their way to Jerusalem, they came to a certain village where a woman named Martha welcomed him into her home.  Her sister, Mary, sat at the Lord's feet, listening to what he taught.

But Martha was distracted by the big dinner she was preparing. She came to Jesus and said, 'Lord, doesn't it seem unfair to you that my sister just sits here while I do all the work? Tell her to come and help me!'

But the Lord said to her, 'My dear Martha, you are worried and upset over all these details!  There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her.'"

Now, I understand, Wade, that you are not Jesus.  But I find that I can draw both from the challenge of being a "wife of noble character" like the one in Proverbs 31 -- a woman who is occupied with keeping house (doing laundry, cooking dinner, updating her blog), and from Mary, who simply just sits -- unoccupied by anything but you.

Neither is wrong. Both are so right.

I want to be Unoccupied when I'm with you.

I want to both take care of you and enjoy every second we have together.

But more importantly, I want to make you more like Jesus -- the same way you do me.

Now lets go enjoy our Memorial Day together!

I love you!
You're Girl

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